Most of us encounter or have encountered difficult conversations, decisions, and team dynamics. I have stated and will continue to state we are all leaders of one; self. With being a leader of one we experience difficult internal conversations and decisions.

Where am I going with this? What if I shared with you a handful of tools to courageously love yourself and others and how this propels you to a blameless leader! Really? Seriously? Tracy you have now gone too far; blameless? Webster’s definition of blame: to find fault, hold responsible, place responsibility. To sleep well at night is knowing you made the best decisions with the knowledge, tools, and team before you. Knowing you did the right thing for the right reasons. This is how you can courageously love yourself and others with blameless leadership.

Who is your favorite leader(s)? Now, reflect on their core characteristics and most of them have the following characteristics; giving them the courage to lead without blame!

Courageous Leaders

1. Take responsibility for their words and actions; no excuses.
2. Model with integral behavior; what they say, they do.
3. Self-Control; slow to judgment and quick to praise.
4. Wisdom is integral part of decision making; knowledge, experience, team input, gives them confidence in decision. If wrong decision go back to #1
5. Gentle; lead in gentle, peace, and puts people first over all other things.
6. Respect others and obey societal law.
7. Do the right thing; they do the right thing even when it is the most painful thing.
8. Trusting; they trust first so others can follow without fear.
9. Teacher and student; willing to teach others what they know and are open to be a student.
10. Process’ into systems; sets systems in place to help with low error rate, and defend against confusion.

Are you actively engaged in creating an environment of growth in these areas not only for your self but for your team, family, and community at large? “You can’t build a relationship with everybody in the room when you don’t care about anybody in the room.” ~ John C. Maxwell.

You are human and perfection will elude daily endeavors; so continually strive to be courageous, bold, and brazen into the leader YOU are meant to be!

I challenge you to courageously love yourself into being a blameless leader!