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We have all heard “hey can I pick your brain?” We have also observed the random commuter stopped at the light next to us picking their nose.

A dear friend of mine Elizabeth McCormick who is highly successful in her field lent me great advice earlier this year.

The advice was regarding boundaries and protecting my time. Not only does it set boundaries, protect my time, but also my past and current clients investments.

This statement has taken practice and courage;  due to the fact I am a value-adder, giver, nurturer, and over-all-making sure everyone else has what they need before my own needs. I am the one you want in the Emergency Exit Row. Do not mistake boundaries for no longer giving everything I have. This lends opportunity to give my time efficiently and fairly to my clients and family.

• Brain Picker: “Hey, Tracy can I pick your brain?”
• Tracy: “My clients usually pay me for that, would you mind sending me an email and I can help as my schedule allows?”

1) Those who are serious will send me an email. 2) Those who are looking for a quick fix never contact me.

CHALLENGE: Who are you letting Pick Your Brain?  Who are you letting pull you out of focus and balance? Reality, they are picking their nose while you are giving away valuable resources.

The more intentional and focused you are on your goals the better you are able to serve those who desire and deserve your time.

Look UP and OUT my Friends!

Brain Picking Resources:

•  Adrienne Graham wrote a new article in Forbes; NO YOU CAN’T PICK MY BRAIN. IT COSTS TOO MUCH!
• Michael Hyatt; Pick My Brain
• Sharon Hayes; No Free Lunch

Original Post: May 2014 | Edited Post: July 2014

Back in my day the two words self-esteem started to become prevalent and we were told to have a good self-esteem. Today we more likely state self-esteem as self-image. As an adolescent I thought a good self-esteem sounded great so I would ask, “ok, how do I get a good self-esteem?” Adults would look at me in disbelief that I did not know how to obtain a good self-esteem and reply, “It is a good idea to have a good one so go for it.”

Basically, we were told to have a good self-esteem but seemed the educators, counselors, and parents telling us to have self-esteem had no idea how to guide us to recognizing what it really is and how to obtain or sustain a healthy self-esteem.

Working with youth today, I talk about self-esteem/self-image and ask the following questions regarding self-esteem/image; here is my analysis of response:

I do not know about you, but I know I am NOT ok with our youth of today still confused and not allowed to think outside of the box of what we call “fitting in”.  Our youth have completely lost who they are and God’s purpose in their life.

 Here are qualities and tools for a healthy self-esteem/image:

1. Be of good character (values, thoughts, feelings, actions)
2. Live by the Golden Rule; treat others the way you would want to be treated.
3. Live in reality vs. reality television.
4. Find the potential in self and others.
5. Lift others up when in need (bully factor).
6. Failing forward is ok, learn from failing and move forward without self-hate.
7. Responsible for actions and words.
8. Have people in your life, who will believe in you, make you feel special.
9. Do something positive in somebody else’s life.
10. Make a list of positive qualities you want in your life and apply them.
11. What do you do well, and keep doing it.
12. Keep doing what makes you excited.
13. Strive to be better tomorrow than you are today.
14. Who is a real-life super hero in your life? Write the qualities you like about them and apply them to your life.
15. Remember, today is not forever and if you mess up start over.  Life is an adventure, not a test.

“If you give, you will receive.” Luke 6:38

Look UP and OUT my Friends!

Tracy Worley

For more resources go to:

http://www.selkirkctg.com/services/hero2one/ or http://jmtyouthmax.com/

This is a story of Vision of Grace: Stuck in a Snow Bank; and June 2013 several of my peers reminded me once again of this story and the awkward moment of being “stuck”.

1. Where are you stuck?
2. Who is in your snow bank to help you get un-stuck?
3. Do you have a mentor?

Excerpt from Potential² Manifesto:

     Having mentors in life keeps you on track, un-stuck, and accountable to Potential². I know the word “accountability” may excite you or a little nauseous, but this is the way to living your Potential².  This past year one of my mentors, Paul Martinelli, took me to task, by halting my let’s get down to-business attitude. While on this call with teammates, Paul had let us know how he was doing. I want to be courteous to my teammates by not asking Paul the same questions, such as “how are you today”. So, when I engaged in conversation, I stated, “Paul, sounds like you are doing well, and you know I am all about business, so here is my first question.” Right then Paul halted my thought process and said, “Well let’s not get down to business; how is the family? What are you planning for the holiday season? What traditions do you have? What traditions will you start? Where do you envision spending the holiday’s five years from now?”

From the first question Paul asked, I was stuck; I could not answer any of the questions. There was painful silence, stuttering, and disbelief; I could not quickly and openly answer personal questions to my friend and mentor. Several of my team members witnessed the awesomeness of the awkward moment. Yes, awkward is awesome, painful accountability awakens us to a new level of creativity and Potential².  From this call I knew there was some adjustment in my thought process, potential, and intentionality in my business and personal joy. I tabled this to the next day when my husband and I would be on the cross country skiing trail. This is always a great time for me to meditate, reflect, and let go.

While on the cross country ski trail this is the mantra that came to my mind and I repeated with each pull, push, and slide: live it, breathe it, and vision it. What was I living? Where was I dedicating my breath? What is my vision of personal and professional success? My mind started to clear to a path of Potential². As the path was clearing in my mind and reasons of the barriers and how to push them out of the way, a barrier on the ski trail appeared. There was a dip in the trail. There are two choices to ski the barrier. The first choice is to do a quick hop, skip, and jump over.  The second choice, I decided to play it safe by slowing down, slide in and out of the dip.

By playing it safe I got stuck. Literally I was stuck in a snow bank; by my slowing down, both ski tips pushed forward into the snow bank instead of sliding in and out. I was now living a Looney Toon Cartoon with both tips of my skis stuck, the back of the skis sticking out into free space, my torso and face flat into the snow bank; my backside was the only thing my husband could see as it was sticking straight in the air. The first thought was not how to get unstuck. My first response was pounding a fist on the snow and saying darn you, Paul Martinelli! You see, it was not his fault I was stuck; it was mine by playing it safe on the trail and in life. Just as on the call the day before, I was playing it safe by not living my Potential².  Paul’s push to the line of intention not only pushed me to a higher level of awareness and creativity but also gave me the title and content of a new book I am working on, Vision of Grace Stuck in a Snow Bank.

“Suspend the need to know how and just step up to the line of intention.”

(Paul Martinelli)

Look UP and OUT my Friends!

T. Worley (2013). Potential² Manifesto

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